We Are Reading: 6 Common Problems Couples Have With Sex

Michael Karson, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Denver, wrote an interesting article including “a list of sexual pitfalls many couples are susceptible to”.

We especially enjoyed that Dr. Karson addressed the issue of how being parents can impact sex in # 2 in the list.

Read the whole article here: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/feeling-our-way/201410/6-common-problems-couples-have-sex

And…stay tuned on the Psychology Today blog because Dr. Karson will be address what couples can do about this problems.

We Are Reading: Mothering with mental illness

This article from the Washington Post is an honest and well written portrayal of one woman’s experience as a mother who suffers from anxiety and depression. Anne shares about her journey as a woman, partner, and mother.

I’d thought that I could keep my illness separate from him, but in retrospect I can see how ridiculous that hope was.

How could I hide these things from him – the constant metallic taste of fear in my mouth, the tearful meltdowns over any little thing that might trip up my routine, the relentless self-loathing that sometimes paralyzes me for days – things that have so profoundly shaped who I am?

I’ve spent most of my life hiding my depression and anxiety, but being a parent makes this so much harder.

The Catalyst Center specializes in the prevention and treatment of postpartum depression as well as treatment for mood disorders. For more information about this specialty area go to http://www.catalystcenterllc.com/services/individual-therapy/pregnancy-postpartum-support/

To read the full article click here:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2014/08/12/mothering-with-mental-illness/

Anne Thériault is a Toronto-based writer and cat enthusiast who blogs about feminism, mental health, and parenting. You can follow her on twitter at @anne_theriault or her blog at The Belle Jar.

We Are Reading: Happy Babywearing

Eleanor Gray from House of Doulas wrote this great piece about how she came across babywearing and the impact it had on her day to day life as a parent.

When I had my first baby I was the first of my friends with children.  I had to seek out a group of like-minded parents in order to get any perspective on my experiences with birth, breastfeeding, and caring for an infant.  That took a while as we had moved to a new city across the country when I was 5-months pregnant.  In the meantime I read a lot, which is always my go-to when I don’t know what I’m doing.
Luckily, I received The Baby Book, by Dr. Sears as a gift.  In it, they discussed babywearing.  I had never even thought about it before then, but it seemed to make sense.  You can keep your baby close and have both hands free for other things.

Read the full article and find out more about House of Doula and the great work that they do at:

http://www.houseofdoula.com/blog/happy-babywearing/

We Are Reading: Childbirth: Questions to ask your Doctor or Midwife

It is important to make an informed decision about where to deliver your baby. This article shares a list of ten great questions to ask potential settings in order to gain all the information you need. Dr. Laura Markham from Aha Parenting recommends first learning about each location and then most importantly choose the location that is best for you.

First, learn as much as you can about all your choices. There are many different ways of caring for a mother and her baby during labor and birth.

Birthing care that is healthier for mothers and babies is called “mother-friendly.” Some birth places or settings are more mother-friendly than others

Read the full list at:

http://www.ahaparenting.com/ages-stages/pregnancy/childbirth-questions-ask-doctor-or-midwife

 

Holding on: My Journey with Antidepressants.

For some people, yoga and other forms of self care are helpful when struggling with depression. For others, herbs, acupuncture, or homeopathy may help. Others benefit the most from antidepressants. At the catalyst center, we work with people to get them into the type of treatment that works best for them. That referral, along with high quality therapy, has proven to be very helpful when treating depression and anxiety.

Check out this account of author Jennifer Pastiloff’s experience treating her depression:

http://themanifeststation.net/2014/06/07/holding-on-my-journey-with-antidepressants/

Meet The Therapists: Dr. Erin Jacklin

Erin Jacklin, Psy.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Jacklin’s Specialties:

Approach to Healing:

Collaborative Treatment

Dr. Jacklin’s approach focuses on working collaboratively with her clients to enrich their lives by deepening their self-understanding and transforming their interpersonal relationships.  Her clients often describe her as warm, compassionate, and genuine. She deeply believes that a significant part of what is healing about psychotherapy is the real relationship between a client and a therapist. Having someone “in your corner” who deeply understands you and genuinely wants what is best for you can be incredibly powerful. She feels honored that she gets to walk with her clients along their paths to growth and healing.

 Dr. Jacklin’s Training

Dr. Jacklin holds a PsyD in Clinical Psychology from the University of Denver’s Graduate School of Professional Psychology, and she is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in the state of Colorado. She completed her pre-doctoral internship at Kaiser Permanente Colorado where she conducted psychotherapy and psychological assessment with individuals, couples, families, and children.

 About Dr. Jacklin

Dr. Jacklin’s family originally moved to Denver from California for her to pursue her doctorate. After falling in love with Colorado they decided to make Denver their permanent home. She feels blessed to be here in Denver and enjoys the ability to be active outdoors and explore what Colorado has to offer year-round.

We Are Reading: How To Talk To Your Children About Gender Identity

MARLO MACK

How To Talk To Your Children About Gender Identity

Marlo Mack from Mutha magazine wrote a great article about how to talk to children about gender identity. The article feels lighthearted but addresses a very important topic. We enjoyed that the author talked about how many of us likely think we have covered our bases when it comes to talking about gender and gender identity with our kids. The author also shared a personal story about her daughter.

When my son was three years old, he informed me – in no uncertain terms – that she was my daughter.  Something had gone wrong in my “tummy,” she said, which had made her come out as a boy instead of the girl she was supposed to be.  She begged me to put her back in my tummy to fix this terrible mistake.

Check out the recommendations the author makes about talking to kids.

 How to Talk to Your Kids About Gender Identity

Most people have either a penis or a vagina.  Some people have both, but that’s pretty rare.

Most people with penises feel like boys.

Most people with vaginas feel like girls.

Some people feel like boys but they really like “girl stuff.”

Some people feel like girls but they really like “boy stuff.”

Some people with penises feel like girls.  They are girls with penises. (My child falls squarely into this category.)

Some people with vaginas feel like boys.  They are boys with vaginas.

Some people are sort of “in between” and don’t feel like a boy or a girl.

All these people are normal.  All these people need to be loved and treated well, and we should respect what they tell us they are.

The “parts” that are covered up by our underpants are private.  It’s no one’s business to ask about them or talk about them.  (That goes for the parents, too!) If someone tells you she is a girl, she’s a girl. If he tells you he’s a boy, he’s a boy.  If they say they’re both, they’re both!

To read the full article go to:

 

 

 

Meet the Therapists: Dr. Courtney Klein

Courtney Klein, Psy.D., LCP

 Approach to Healing:

Lasting Positive Change

Dr. Klein specializes in working collaboratively with people who are seeking to improve their relationships and their lives. She excels at treating more than just the immediate symptoms, addressing the whole person and treating the underlying causes of distress. By using this comprehensive approach she is able to help her clients achieve lasting change rather than just a quick, temporary fix.

Dr. Klein’s clients frequently tell her that she helped them to feel comfortable expressing themselves openly right from the start. This feeling of comfort and connection is an incredibly important building block for achieving lasting change. In her psychotherapy work, she uses humor and compassion to connect with her clients, and often finds that her sessions are filled with moments of laughter that help to balance the hard work they are doing on the issues at hand. She honors each of her client’s experiences, and takes pride in her work walking with them in their journey towards lasting positive change.

Sometimes you need a private place to be yourself where you can freely discuss your life with someone who can offer an outside perspective and help you to make the changes you are seeking. Dr. Klein excels at providing such a place for her clients: somewhere they can feel completely safe and supported in their process of growth.

Dr. Klein’s Training

Dr. Klein graduated from the University of Denver’s Graduate School of Professional Psychology with a doctorate in clinical psychology. She is a licensed Clinical Psychologist and has worked in various mental health settings including private practice, The Children’s Hospital, and community mental health in the seven years living and working here in Denver. She is especially drawn to seeing clients in private practice where she is best able to provide the care and energy needed to help them reach their goals.

About Dr. Klein

Dr. Klein grew up in various towns across the Midwest and fell in love with Denver, Colorado when she moved out here for graduate school. After completing her doctorate she found she could not leave such a great place, and instead decided to make Denver her home. She is still exploring all the outdoor activities Colorado has to offer. She has found that she loves hiking, running, backyard gatherings, and trying restaurants in the city.

 Ready to book your free consultation with Dr. Courtney Klein? Call us at 720-675-7123 or email CatalystCenterLLC@gmail.com

We Are Reading: 50 ways to Support a Woman During Labor

We love this list of ways to encourage and support a laboring woman from Four Mamas Birth Collective, www.fourmamasbirth.com. Great for partners!

1. Greet the contraction with a big sigh.…relax as you let your breath out.

2. Every breath out brings calmness…

3. That’s the way….just like that……

4. Feel baby’s head pressing down…..let the baby come.

5. Stay soft and flexible where you feel the baby….

6. Now it’s coming down……start to rest now.

7. Great! Don’t change a thing.   You’re doing so well.

8. Join right in with your breathing….keep it going in and out….

9. Nice and easy….. use only the energy you need….

10. Drop your shoulders….. loosen your hands…..

11. Stay with your breath… each one opens the cervix more…

12. This one is almost over…..fading away….. go limp like a rag doll….

13. You really have the hang of this. You’re amazing.   I knew you could do it.

14. Here comes another….that’s it, relaxing sighs as you rise up to the top of it…

15. Just give way for the baby… baby wants to come….

16. Keep it going just like that…..easy in , easy out…….keep that rhythm

17. See it happening….the baby is coming down on the inside….. breathe it open

18.You’re a natural…….working so well….a strong woman.

19. Let it go away…..start to rest…….cleansing breath…..Nice going!

20. Meet it with your breathing…. that’s it….getting stronger now…..stay with it…

21. Let it stretch….that’s the baby’s head you feel…….coming through.

22. We’re really getting there….you’re doing beautifully…..you’re inspiring!

23. It’s coming down….slow and easy breaths now…..kiss that one good-bye…..

24. First class work!

25. You’re so healthy and strong!

26. Deep breath right from the start……yes, in and out….match it to the peak…

27. Yes, really going right with it……the circle is widening…..

28. Just a little longer…here, look in my eyes….breathe with me. …just like that

29. Going away now…… go limp and relaxed……you just rest now.

30. I’m here with you, you are alright…….we’ll do this together…..one at time.

31. From the beginning….breathe with me…….yes….yes….

32. Nice and steady…..baby’s sliding through….. heading toward your arms…

33. Stay centered…..no resistance……going with it…..being fluid like water.

34. Good open sounds……going deep inside…. to where the baby is.

35. Easing up now……let it go completely……rest for you and the baby.

36. You’re incredible!   Finding that inner strength. I knew you could do this.

37. Remember, the hardest time is the shortest. Let’s take them one at a time.

38. Deep breath….really surrender……you are safe……

39. You’re the best…working hard…..really stretching…

40. Good pain, baby pain….doing just what it should…

41. OK, it’s coming down the hill…..in the valley now…..time to rest again

42. You’re fully dilated, you can push when you’re ready!

43. I’m so excited for you! You’ll be meeting your baby soon!     What a woman!

44. Few deep breaths now….push at the top of your breath…..pressing down…..

45. That’s it…..way into your bottom….feel baby moving down and out

46. Listen to your body….follow it’s rhythm….push when it tells you to…

47. It’s going away….rest and relax now…save that energy…..

48. Here it comes….feel your woman power pushing your baby down……down

49. Let the baby come out easy now….bottom opens out….blossoming petal by petal……breathe easy…..little nudges….. here it comes!

50. What a miracle! Congratulations, you’re a Mom!

If you are looking a guide to childbirth for dads and labor companions we recommend The Birth Partner by Penny Simkin.