How To Talk To Your Children About Gender Identity
Marlo Mack from Mutha magazine wrote a great article about how to talk to children about gender identity. The article feels lighthearted but addresses a very important topic. We enjoyed that the author talked about how many of us likely think we have covered our bases when it comes to talking about gender and gender identity with our kids. The author also shared a personal story about her daughter.
When my son was three years old, he informed me – in no uncertain terms – that she was my daughter. Something had gone wrong in my “tummy,” she said, which had made her come out as a boy instead of the girl she was supposed to be. She begged me to put her back in my tummy to fix this terrible mistake.
Check out the recommendations the author makes about talking to kids.
How to Talk to Your Kids About Gender Identity
Most people have either a penis or a vagina. Some people have both, but that’s pretty rare.
Most people with penises feel like boys.
Most people with vaginas feel like girls.
Some people feel like boys but they really like “girl stuff.”
Some people feel like girls but they really like “boy stuff.”
Some people with penises feel like girls. They are girls with penises. (My child falls squarely into this category.)
Some people with vaginas feel like boys. They are boys with vaginas.
Some people are sort of “in between” and don’t feel like a boy or a girl.
All these people are normal. All these people need to be loved and treated well, and we should respect what they tell us they are.
The “parts” that are covered up by our underpants are private. It’s no one’s business to ask about them or talk about them. (That goes for the parents, too!) If someone tells you she is a girl, she’s a girl. If he tells you he’s a boy, he’s a boy. If they say they’re both, they’re both!
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